![]() Their world is usually wrapped around their family. On the down side, they can make a lot of demands on their loved ones. When the social instinct is last, it helps dampen some of the image issues that surface when this subtype is out of balance. On the high side, they are more connected to the people closest to them and not as concerned about others. This subtype is more assertive then the self-pres/social subtype in giving and getting love. On the high side, as long as this subtype takes the time to tend to their own needs, they can gain much enjoyment in service to others and the life they build for themselves and their friends and family. They can be stubborn and passive-aggressive in an attempt to get their needs met. They develop a feeling of entitlement, feeling that it’s their turn to be catered to for a while, since they have done so much. It would be nice if someone helped them out once in a while. On the down side, they will resent that they are the ones that do all the work. ![]() They are likely to be there physically to help, cook, lend a hand, fix something. They give to others in acts of kindness – gifts, thoughtful cards, remembering special days. Their focus is usually on their home and family. This subtype is warm, friendly and very personable. They do this in a way that relates to their environment, their safety, comfort, and possessions. So the self-pres Two wants to bring love to themselves. The heart energy of the Two is an outward energy, while the self-pres energy focuses inward. The self-pres instinct in the Two is somewhat at odds with the dominant type Two fixation. Giving and doing can result in a feeling of entitlement, where they give to get, expecting the return of whatever good they have brought to others. They give of themselves in concrete terms, as in doing things for others. The self-pres Two turns their fear of being unloved into material giving. The image/feeling issues of the type combine with the social instinct, and can make for the very caring compassionate drive that is often seen in the social Two. The sin of pride becomes very apparent in this subtype, and focuses on the need to maintain social bonds. When the social instinct is dominant, the fear of being unloved is less focused on key individuals. The survival energy is based on the need to feel love from intimates. When this image/feeling energy combines with the sexual instinct, it compounds the outward merging energy of both the Two and the sexual instinct, resulting in a type very focused on others. Two is part of the feeling triad their fear is of not being loved or seen as loving. The basic fear of being unlovable manifests differently with the various instinctual stackings. When healthy, Twos give with acceptance of any outcome. This results in a cycle of giving followed by anger. ![]() Deep down, the hurt and fear of type Two is that they aren’t lovable, but pride blinds them, and the ego’s game is to force the other person into giving the Two what the Two wants. They justify, or don’t even see that they are manipulating others, because they just can’t accept that they don’t deserve to be loved. They become blind to the fact that their ego is engaged and they start to manipulate others into feeling guilty for not returning their love. As Twos become less healthy, pride creeps in and they can’t accept that the love and closeness they want from another is not available. If their love goes unreciprocated, they might still focus energy on the situation, but they accept life for what it is. Healthy Twos know how to give of themselves without the need for reciprocity on their terms. The Instinctual Stackings of Enneatype Two
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